Talking To Your Loved One About In Home Care Part 2
In Talking to Your Loved One About In Home Care Part 1, we discussed a number of key things to consider when approaching the subject of assisted living or in-home care with a loved one who needs it. The beginning of this process – and possibly the most important initial steps – include educating yourself about senior care and discussing the idea with other family members first. In this installment of the series we'll detail 5 more steps in the process of talking to your loved one about in home care.
Make the Object of the Discussion Known
Once you've collected all of the relevant information and discussed the idea with other family members, it's time to mention the idea to your loved one. The best way to do this is to not "beat around the bush," and just let your family member know what you'd like to talk about. Asking for a discussion without telling them the subject will probably only serve to stress or irritate them, so do them the courtesy of being forthwith in your request:
"I'd like to talk to you about getting a little help for you/us around here."
"I was thinking that we could have someone come in to lend a hand with things."
"We should talk about getting a little assistance with your daily care."
Even if the idea isn't warmly received right away, your loved one will appreciate you being up-front about the issue, and letting them know what you want to talk about in advance will give them some time to think about it.
Set a specific time for the discussion
This is important because it's the beginning of a commitment process; first a commitment to the talk, then a commitment to think about it, and hopefully a commitment to try in-home care. Make sure you let your loved one know that you value your time and theirs by setting a time and expectation for the conversation.
Allow a Natural Exchange
A natural dialogue is critical if you expect to make positive progress. State a point, be brief with it, and let your family member respond. Even if their mental state doesn't appear to you to warrant such an exchange, you need to allow for it, as this is an important discussion. The more your loved one feels that they are being empowered to make a healthy, independent decision to get a little assistance, the more likely it is that they'll agree to try it.
Don't Force It
Unfortunately, some of our elders may see in home care as a loss of independence and might be naturally resistant to it. Forcing the issue is only going to make things worse. Be patient. Listen to what they have to say and try to put yourself in their situation.
Ultimately, in home care, senior care and/or assisted living can help to improve the quality of life of everyone in your family involved in providing care for your loved one. So if they're not receptive to the idea right away, give it some time and try again. Patience and understanding will go much farther than trying to rapidly make such an important change.
To learn more and to get an immediate consultation about care for your family member, contact a professional in home care provider now. They can help you develop a solution for your family that will have you all living a better quality of life.